I like the idea of choosing a word for the year, and having a small nugget to concentrate on when life gets too much, or embracing a concept to build or improve in your life. Last year’s word was Bliss, which turned out to be the compete opposite of how I spent a year which by June had me looking at mild to moderate depression and a need for some serious thinking therapy. I would hate to have full-blown clinical depression: seriously, just those few months of foggy thinking, obsession with certain issues and an inability to find a focus in my life that gave me the support I needed without asking the impossible of me was enough. If you’re low, and positive thinking alone isn’t helping you, go seek professional help from a therapist or GP. I’m hoping 2020 will be better, and so far I feel it is.
When I started thinking about 2020 and what I wanted as my base word, I knew I wanted something to do with strength, authenticity, with putting myself into life without holding back. I got the new and updated Simple Abundance in early December, which I’m working through in mostly-daily chunks, and that is very much about living fully, living as yourself and living in a way that benefits you. It is about recognising what makes your heart sing and then putting your whole heart into life, so the word Wholehearted made its way into my possible list.
Wholehearted leads very soon to Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection, which led me on a blog-reading chain through Project Intention and her fantastic take on what living whole heartedly will be,
In its most positive light, wholeheartedness is living the best possible version of myself, as much as possible. In its most negative, it’s placing myself in as many positions as possible that scare me shitless when all I want to do hide in bed and eat cookies all day instead.
through Jen Carrington and her annual Wholehearted Year mini book, and on to the very action-driven Mindful Ambition post by Patrick Buggy. He not only lists the guideposts, but gives ways we can put them into action in our own lives, by releasing perfectionism, treating ourselves with compassion and embracing our own creativity in life. And finally to Notes from Joana, a twenty-something who I really want to hug and tell her that she will still be fighting for authenticity and to be herself thirty years later but that the journey is more important than any mythical destination. I will be exploring my soul for the rest of my life, and still needing to embrace my imperfections until the day I die because, Goddammit I am a human and imperfection of body, soul and mind is part of the human condition. Good enough will do.
I suppose now is the point where I’m supposed to copy out the guideposts and point out what I’m going to do about them? You’ll have to wait for that post: real life has impacted on my time again, and I have to wander off and do some work. I have plans for an infographic, and perhaps a series of posts on how I see the guideposts and their role in my life at the moment, but for now I’ll just leave quietly and shut the door behind me….
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3 thoughts on “Wholehearted: My Word for 2020”
Great word. I hope your word for 2020 is a better reflection of your year than last year’s was.
So far, so good!
Hi Jo – just popping over to read your post and your take on Brene’s Wholeheartedness vs my Cultivation theme. I love how she inspired both of us with our WOTY’s and to continue that never ending journey into being truly authentic.